Inspiration

I remember a time when it all seemed impossible. I had many of those moments.

Leaving home at 16 to secure my own state of mind and safety was a great task in and of itself. Leaving an abusive parent and another that was mentally unstable was my priority. I was not prepared for what was waiting for me on the other side

You have set a New Years resolution that failed, you tried again and set a new goal and lost momentum, WHY?

It’s allusive. It’s alluring. It's invigorating. It's timeless. 

You may chase it for years, decades -- your whole life, even. And yet, when you find it, you know it.

Consider a moment in your life when a negative event led to positive consequences that you were not expecting. 

We have all experienced this at one time or another in our lives. We have our mind set on a certain outcome, but life sends us a curveball, and we go on a tailwind spin downward lost in the agony and pain of what was.

Imagine life through these eyes... What would be possible for you to achieve when you are fully aligned with your values, needs, and desires? 
How would you show up if you had limitless confidence and courage?
What is possible from there?

Have you ever had the opportunity to feel truly seen and heard by someone else?

Imagine being heard with a deep level of compassion and acceptance.
Imagine being heard, with no agenda or prejudgment.

Imagine being heard and accepted for who you are, seeing you as whole. 
Imagine the feeling of connection that is possible.

It can be so scary sometimes to share your deepest secrets and your wildest dreams.
It can be downright frightening to share our biggest failures or most challenging fears

Where do these feelings come from?

It is the worry of what someone will say or think,  the standards of society that have become deeply jaded by the effects of things such as social media.

Your life may be safe, you are responsible
You are known as dependable
You are well planned
You have each and every step of the way perfectly calculated

At one point, life seems to be in order..
You had your daily routine
You knew where you were going each day and who you were going with

Everyone needs someone in their corner.
Support.
No judgment. An open mind. A ready ear. A new perspective. Insight.

It’s scary to show our vulnerable selves to others. 
We are social creatures. We so want and need to belong. But the mere thought and threat of being judged and rejected send most of us back to our “safe and secure” existence

In a notebook or journal, write down a list of fears you have. 
Perhaps it’s public speaking, asking someone on a date, taking that exotic trip abroad or asking your boss for a raise.

There is an inner butterfly waiting to soar
Emotions are running high
You have so much more to share with the world

There may be a fear of judgment
There may be a lack of confidence
There may be a desire to fit in
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We all have a unique destination that no one can replicate. Your gifts are yours and meant to be shared with the world. 
Imagine life with the 3 F's - Free,Fearless and Fulfilled

Sure, some fears are healthy. Fears such as not walking into oncoming traffic, keep you safe.
There are many fears though that prevent you from fully living and following your dreams.

We hold onto the memories of the past because of the emotion it is associated with. In addition, we are more likely to retain and hold onto something negative particularly if we do not have a positive balance around us. 

Pleasing society is not why you are here. It is so easy to get wrapped up trying to fit in, not rocking the boat and making others happy. But what happens, is you begin to lose yourself along the way.

Sure, things happen. 
We have all had our share of ups and downs.
It's important to be aware of the impact of our emotions

Where you hear the word trauma, what do you think?
Pain, Suffering, Anger, Loss
A disturbing experience
An action that broke your spirits

More than the trauma that happened to you.
More than those moments of doubt that try to snuff out your light.
More than the voices inside of your head choking your self-confidence with every passing second.

Well, grab a pen and paper because this journey we are going on is really going to get your wheels in motion! 

It’s not that positive thinking will solve all of your problems magically, just like that.
Emotional freedom isn’t so much about positive thinking, but more about controlling your emotions instead of letting them control you.

If you asked me at 21 what direction my life was going, I was absolutely certain I had all the answers. After all, I was used to finding the answers on my own since I left home at 17 and damn near raised myself since I was 12

Loneliness runs much deeper than the physical aspect of not having another person with you.  Don't confuse it with solitude, which is of choice, is relaxing and often a form of self-care to recharge.

Have you ever went ahead and set a goal for yourself, starting out and feeling so committed. You knew this time was different. Then suddenly you are losing steam and unable to maintain your focus.

When you are experiencing a lack of self love, you feel down on yourself possibly even doubting your every move.

Some ways that you can recognize that an increased implementation of self-love is needed is to look for the following 4 suggestions. (read article)

Do you have days or periods of time that you feel off your game? 

I get it. Here is one of my daily tricks! 
I work from home, and sometimes it is so easy to just stay in my PJ's. Where would that get me, other than sitting down with my coffee and watching tv?  

Don't be afraid to fail
Be afraid not to try 

Are you a "Yes Person"? 

Do you find yourself overextended, regretting your decision, and resenting the person you said yes to? It is time to start creating some healthy boundaries girlfriend! 

Think to yourself, let it start with me and be kind to yourself.
So it didn't go so well today, that's okay. We have all been there. 
A fresh start can begin at 7 a.m., 12 p.m. or even 1 a.m. 

Look at what is in front of you. What idea have you started and not finished? What was the story you kept telling yourself as to why you did not follow through? 

If your focus is on doing things to fit in VS doing it to make a difference, think about how differently you are showing up. 

We are so programmed and conditioned to tone it down and fit in. We are programmed to do it right, not the best.

Worry is just a step ahead of where you need to be, so..
Just Be.

Do you find yourself apologizing for things that are not in your control?

Be careful jumping to conclusions. 
Do you ever catch yourself creating a story about something, only later on to find out that you had misinterpreted what happened?

You're more than your past.
More than the trauma that happened to you.

We all have people in our lives that do not see or agree with our dream. 
If we listen to them, it is so easy to fall off course, So it is important to be aware of these red flags below, and adjust accordingly. 

Sometimes there are goals that you want to achieve but you lose momentum.

Being aware of these three steps will help you get back on track.

Did you ever want something so bad, but gave up before you even started?

The self-doubt
The second-guessing
The excuses
The overbooking yourself
The multitasking

All just to avoid failure?

Do you practice self-compassion? Do you treat yourself with care and love when you have come across your own mistake or fault? 

This consists of:  
Being Kind to Yourself - Be gentle and understanding rather than being hard on yourself or overly critical.

Think of something that you have wanted to do, but have not take action on. What was it that help you back? 

What held you back is your story. This is something that you have been telling yourself to keep yourself safe. Your subconscious mind learned at one point in your life by doing this, it was the right thing to do, but not it is time to tell it Thank you, but I am going to be OK! 

How aware are you of the words you speak each day? 

Did you ever stop to slow down and think about how those words are impacting your actions?

It has been commonly accepted to be super busy. It is almost a standard part of the conversation. I used to think I was partly because I lived in the hustle and bustle of New York City, but I was wrong. 

I have clients all over the world, and we are just SO busy all of the time.

It is important to have self-awareness. Sometimes, when we are not aware we get stuck in routines because it is just comfortable. It is familiar, and although change is desired and want better for yourself your mind is set on auto-negative.

You feel exhausted, bored, irritated, stressed, anxious, threatened, overwhelmed or depressed after just seconds near a particular person. 
Maybe you even felt guilty, that they made you feel this way.. and now you are feeling even worse

Are you concerned about trying to be "normal" and fit in? 

Stop right there! If you continuously focus on being normal, how will anyone ever see all that you have to offer and who you truly are?

Each and every one of us has a past
Some, more challenging than others

It is true, we all have a default response on how we handle our emotions. We default to what is familiar and feels comfortable, even if that is pain or sadness. 

Trust is often taken for granted
Trust is the unspoken word
Trust is needed and desired to achieve peace and harmony
Trust is one of the most important characteristics but the least acknowledged

You are your dreams and noone else can take that away.
The lack of belief someone has shown in your or the unkind words they shared is a reflection of them - not you